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How do you reconcile this situation? Andy Stanley proposes what he calls "Do for one, what you wish you could do for all." But wait, do for one and leave someone out? Isn't that unfair? Aren't you as a parent, a teacher, a boss, playing favorites? The answer of course is yes. But isn't life unfair?
I'm not suggesting of course that a teacher, a parent, a boss give all their attention, all their resources or affection to one child and nothing to another. Just as Andy is not suggesting a leader ignore the needs of all employees and dote on one. Instead he is suggesting that you select those situations where you can tutor, counsel, encourage, where there is a reciprocal relationship and make a difference. In other words, "do for one what you wish you could do for all."
Throughout history, there have been examples of this. Oprah Winfrey was mentored and encouraged by a fourth grade teacher Mary Duncan, who took extra time with her, allowed her to stay after class to help with various tasks and encouraged her to overcome her feelings of insecurity. Walter Cronkite, well known news anchor, was encouraged by his devoted high school journalism teacher Fred Birney who gave him practical experience as editor of the high school newspaper and encouraged him to go into journalism rather than engineering. Finally, Dr Martin Luther King Jr was inspired by Dr. Benjamin Mays, a minister, a scholar and president of Morehouse College. Dr. King was so influenced by his close relationship with Dr. Mays that he would call him his "spiritual and emotional father". What if each of these individuals had decided not to mentor, not to encourage, not to inspire because they didn't have the time to do that for all their students? What if they had been afraid to become involved in the relationship because it wouldn't be fair to other students? Would we have even heard of Oprah Winfrey, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr or Walter Cronkite? Probably not.
Overwhelmed by the needs of the students in your classroom? Pick one where you can make a difference and mentor them. Overcome by the turmoil, the needs of our broken world? Pick one cause, one area where you can make a dent in the universe. Think what a difference you could make if you applied this principle. Think what a difference we all could make if we each one applied this principle to just one person. What if instead of worrying about being fair, we instead worried about making a difference? Would the world look like a different place?