I have a friend whose child used to call fly swatters...fly swappers. Makes you think doesn't it? What would you swap a fly for if you had a chance?
When it comes to personalities, do you sometimes wish that you could swap your personality for another? If you are reserved, do you wish that you could be more outgoing? If you are task oriented, do you sometimes wish that you could be more people focused? While we are all uniquely wired and more comfortable operating out of our own personality type, it is certainly possible to "visit" some of the other personality traits. For instance, if you are not usually a leader, a 'D' personality, it is possible to develop leadership traits based on the need to use them in your home or work environment. Or even if you are naturally a very fun loving spontaneous 'I' type, it is possible to develop organizational skills when needed to manage your business in a responsible way.
Each of the four personality types has it's own unique gifts and strengths. No one personality is better than another.Each one can use it's strengths to grow and develop. Each one can push them to the point of being a weakness. Within the four personality types, there are the possibility of a total of forty personality blends. It is important to note that very few people have only one personality type. In fact, about 80% of the population have two components that are high. The trick is to identify what characteristics are called for based on the situation. Each personality needs to spend most of their time working in their strengths. At the same time they need to recognize when they should raise their less dominant characteristics based on the needs of the situation.
What does this mean for you and your child? What is the best way to encourage your child’s strengths while at the same time helping them deal with situations that challenge them? Firstly, it is important that when your child is old enough to understand their personality type that you explain to them what you see as their strengths. Point out to them when you see them using those qualities in a positive way as well as when they become a weakness. It is also important that they recognize situations where they are challenged so they can enhance those qualities when called for. Finally, enjoy the unique qualities that make up your child. The differences we all have is what makes our families special and unique.